Our Longings Are Innocent

by Aly Hazlewood on July 16, 2017



Artwork - Christian Schloevery

With the exception of a very small minority, I believe our longings are innocent, our desires life affirming.

Of course it’s also true that craving is the cause of much suffering. So whilst it’s prudent not to buy into it too much, not to lend too much weight to the ‘stories’ of longing and desire, don’t let anyone shame or gaslight you out of your longing to be seen, heard, celebrated and loved. Or your grief-stricken desire for our Mother Earth to be honoured.

Sure, this might all be a dream-like play of existence, but we’ve been gifted these body-minds, these human suits for a few brief, sweet moments. Your longing makes you exquisitely human. Perhaps they’ve mastered depersonalisation in another galaxy, but it just doesn’t seem to work that way here.

I want you to know that I feel great tenderness towards your yearnings. Your willingness to feel is an act of inconceivable valour in a world bent on numbing out. I see you.


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This beach has been the setting for so many beautiful moments of love and connectivity. Video footage courtesy of Arthur Moore.

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  Infographic courtesy of Odylique.co.uk. Odylique Natural Sunscreen SPF 30 is organic and fair-trade, and I will be testing this soon for review, so keep your eyes peeled.  

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  Cacay Oil is the latest ‘wonder oil’ to hit the hugely overcrowded skin care market and comes from wild harvest Cacay trees in the Colombian Amazon. High-end facial skincare sales have largely been flat over the past year, but face-oil sales surged 24 percent to $42 million, data from NPD Group show. They’ve more than doubled [...]

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1. I’ve learned that wherever you go, there you are. No truer words have been spoken, there’s simply no escaping yourself. I naively thought that community living could be the answer to my problems, might soothe the lifelong solitude in my soul, but was rapidly disavowed of this notion. 2. In a similar vein, I’ve [...]

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  Every afternoon at the New Life Foundation, the residents benefit from workshops ranging from topics such as mindfulness, self development, addiction recovery, creativity, and communication skills. This week, Life Coach Samina facilitated a workshop addressing the sticky topic of ‘Shame’. Centred around Brene Brown’s excellent and surprisingly humorous TED talk on vulnerability and shame, [...]

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One of the many great things about New Life is the number of different therapeutic modalities on offer, ranging from refuge recovery for addiction, the Hakomi method, TRE, Dance Mandala, EFT, Art therapy, core process psychotherapy and more. We are currently very fortunate to have Ani Konchog on the Life Coach team again this year. [...]

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